listen, i didn't mean to attack you... and right you are when you say what you did... i just became very very baffled because... isn't other people the place where every person finds it's own justification? i mean, i understand what you mean, and yet it conflicts with the thought in my head that everything EVERYTHING is because and for other people, do we mean it or not, and especially when we don't.. because there would be no such term or thing as selfishness, if there was nothing to endanger the self.

I don't even fully remember the initial thought...
i guess it's a personal issue of mine... let's pray i do sort it out sometime

thanks for food for thought...